I have always wondered if there was really such a thing as having a soul mate. After debating it for years and years, (and usually on the negative side of it) I believe that there very well may be a possibility.
I agree that two people may have a very deep connection. My logical mind wonders ... Out of almost 7 billion people in the world, have I indeed found my soul mate right here in the very city I dwell?
Assessing your relationship is the first step to making it last. In finally finding the one, examine first whether a relationship is in the long run, truly good for you or not. Here are pointers on how to check true soul mate connection.
- Not necessary to be identical. It isn’t necessary for your soul mate to be just like you in order to be happy. In fact, often couples with different temperaments can complement each other’s strengths and weaknesses. For example an extrovert might be drawn to an introvert. I’m all about opposites attracting, to a point.
- You accept each other.One of the crucial indicators of being soul mate is truly accepting each other, right from the get - go.
Letting go and fully accepting each other, and ‘surrendering’ to each other is a sure sign of soul mate potential. If you're in a committed relationship but are trying to control each other in some way (he wants you be less of a chatterbox, you insist he change careers), think twice about pursing the relationship.
Control is the enemy of intimacy, often times, we believe we're bound to land our soul mates if we only learn how to manage, control, and manipulate the outcome of every situation. Only when you both can say I accept her or him sincerely and honestly, will you be on your way to building a lasting coupledom
- You're available physically and emotionally for each other. Women have a feminine side that's soft, tender, vulnerable, and receptive. That part of her wants to be taken out to dinner, walked home, asked out, thought of, caressed, and just plain taken care of. It's the part of her that relished in felling protected and cherished. These are the same qualities and needs that have drawn men to her and these are the qualities that a real soul mate must recognize fulfill.
- You AGREE to disagree. One of the surest signs of soul mate potential is a couple's ability to resolve disagreement and conflict in a way that suits them both. This means that you see eye to eye when it comes to communicating your needs and shortcomings.
often than not, two people who are right for each other are sensitive to each other needs, and thus able to focus and talk freely. Soul mates are sounding boards for exchanging thoughts and guidance’s. They search for the answers to life’s dilemmas together.
In more ways than one, in a soul mate relationship, life can be incredibly exciting and comfortable at the same time, because you and your partner may be connected at more levels than you realize.
- Communication is key. It's a red flag if you have to call your friends or obtain in PHD to decipher what he or she is trying to communicate to you. For example, you think that you are having meaningful discussions but you always walk away from each feeling more confused. Bottom line: If you cannot communicate about the simplest of things, you might not be able to build a good relationship arrangement together.
Nine times out of 10, soul mates get each other's nuances and quirks. In short, soul mates truly understand each other, because they operate on the same wavelength. Neither person criticizes or treats the other like a second class citizen. They can talk and hold meaningful, lengthy conversations where each takes a turn speaking as the other listens.
- Your hopes and dreams are in sync. In choosing the right partner, one must look for character, not simply looks or personality. A common interest is present where both have similar interests and ambitions, and goals for the future.
I have personally never taken a compatibility test, but they may just prove to be true. There are many characteristics - including religious values, ambition, passion, and energy level - that determine a couple’s compatibility quotients. But I often wonder how truthful people are that fill out the questionnaire. Are they marking answers that they ‘wish’ were true about themselves and not the actual truth? The more two people honestly match on these qualities, the better their chances of staying solidly together.
Simply spending quality time together will eventually tell as well, and that is my personal plan of action. I love spending time with my boyfriend and sometimes can’t get enough of him. I miss him when he is away, yet I realize that time apart is crucial. I sleep better when he is beside me. My world is a better place when we are together. I believe that is a promising sign on my side.
- Your lives change. For the better! One of the most telling signs of being with someone whose soul mate material is the emotional growth you've experienced from being in that relationship generates something new - a new experience, a new understanding, a new solution - with each encounter.
Having a soul mate in your life increases awareness and alertness and constantly forces one to confront one’s self. True soul mates can work on their problem areas to connect the faults within each other. Soul mates give each other self-confidence. Together, they have the power to makes dramatic changes.
True love is your soul's recognition of its counterpoint in another.
Our soul mates are our partners, our mirrors, and someone to share all that we are and all that we will become tomorrow, and bottom line, someone to love and someone to love us. We just need to remember that there are times when it is not about us, it is about them, and that is my definition of unconditional love.
